Sitting in front of me is Emma, a quietly spoken woman with dark hair that softly frames her face. She is nervous and avoiding eye contact with me.
We are here to discuss what she believes the leadership team need to do to create a high-trust culture. Despite her visible nervousness, her answers are succinct and articulate. It is clear that she is loyal to the company, loves her job and colleagues.
So it is surprising when half-way through the discussion, she says to me "I've been worried all week about speaking to you. I've been so scared that I am going to say the wrong thing and I will be fired."
Shocked by her response, I assure her that her answers are confidential and that I will only be sharing themes, not individual responses. She then gains the confidence to tell me a story that has been replaying on her mind for years.
"A few years ago the founder started a relationship with one of our colleagues in the office - Sarah. We all knew her. We didn't know about the affair, until she was promoted to his second-in-command and she was moved into the office next to him. All of a sudden, team meetings were stopped. It was like all of the meetings now occurred in their offices. We were all excluded. The founder started taking out lots of money from the company and taking lots of holidays with Sarah. When the quarterly results came out, they blamed staff on not making enough sales. A couple of senior people went to the CEO to raise their concerns and they got fired.
It was like overnight it became such a terrible place to work. We couldn't share ideas with him anymore and Sarah would only talk to us when we weren't performing to her standards. I ended up falling sick with breast cancer and was on leave for several months. In that time, most of my colleagues were fired or left. The company I returned to was almost non-existent. I stopped speaking up about issues and to this day, I am still worried about pointing out some of the challenges."
With tears streaming down her face, she tells me how disappointing it was to see a close-knit team disintegrate into one that had secrets and excluded people. What's interesting for me is that the event happened seven years ago. The previous founder and his partner were booted out five years ago - thrown out by the board who installed a new CEO and management team. In my stakeholder interviews, I was seeing a lot of evidence of a great culture, with happy staff who loved their work and transparent leaders. Yet, in my interviews with employees around 40% were still scarred and acting like things were still the way they were, even employees who weren't at the company during that time.
You might think that the deep pain still being experienced in the culture people was a one-off example. The reality is I have seen countless toxic leaders, create a culture of fear that lasts for years. It's almost as if the fear and chaos they have created has been embedded into the company DNA. What's interesting now is that employees are waking up to these toxic workplaces and refusing to put up with it.
According to a recent Sloan Management review study, the great resignation is being driven by employees leaving a toxic culture. A toxic corporate culture is 10.4 times more powerful than compensation in predicting a company’s attrition rate compared with its industry.
Today, people aren't leaving jobs because of burnout, low pay or even inflexible working hours. The primary reason employees are walking out the door during the Great Resignation is a toxic workplace. According to analysis, the leading elements contributing to toxic cultures include failure to promote diversity, equity, and inclusion; workers feeling disrespected; and unethical behaviour.
The Long-Lasting Impact of Emotional Pain
According to research by Naomi Eisenberger, a leading social neuroscience researcher at the University of California at Los Angeles (UCLA), the feeling of being excluded provokes the same sort of reaction in the brain that physical pain might cause. Social rejection activates the pain network in our brain that registers physical pain.
The real kicker is that emotional pain lasts much longer than physical pain. When employees feel that their boss treats them unfairly, doesn't recognise their contribution, disrespects or reprimands them, it lights up the pain network in the brain. The impact can take years to heal. Ignoring it and stopping people from talking about the traumatic event ensures that the pain and separation continue.
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