A quality is part of our personality that comes naturally to us. For example, you might think of one of your friends as 'always being generous'. This means being...
Recently, one of the biggest complaints that I have been hearing about leaders is how a lack of self-awareness is impacting their performance. Employees complain about leaders who are totally oblivious to how their behaviours, words and actions create distrust and frustration amongst those around them.
In fact, a study by Carter Cast to uncover why managers and leaders had been fired, demoted or had plateaued in their careers revealed that the culprit was personal blind spots. Leaders who were unaware of weaknesses in their interpersonal behaviour, and were unwilling, when confronted with evidence, to make adjustments.
Often, I mentor well-meaning leaders who receive poor trust results from their direct reports and peers. They feel hurt and betrayed by their 360-degree ratings failing to understand how their behaviours have led to such a result. These leaders tend to be low in not only internal self-awareness, but also external. Over time, I help them understand how their behaviours are unintentionally creating trust issues.
to improve our self-awareness working with a mix of both internal and external self-awareness techniques is best. External being receiving feedback from others and taking stock of assessment results. While internal self-awareness is boosted through journaling, yoga, meditation and talking to a coach or therapist.
Research indicates that those who have an inflated sense of their own skills and who understate these interpersonal issues are six times more likely to fail than those with accurate self-awareness.
But not only that, when we lack self-awareness we really do fall into the narcissism camp. Narcissists are unable to see their faults and spend most of their time defending their actions, talking about how great they are and pushing their own agenda. Narcissists make terrible leaders. So if you know that you're not a narcissist, then do what you can to improve your self awareness. Your people will thank you for it!