When my daughter was 17 months old, she discovered a superpower: the word “Why?”
For the next two years, it was her response to almost everything.
Why is the sky blue?
Why do I have to wear shoes?
Why can’t I eat that?
There’s something magical about watching a child dismantle the world one question at a time. Their curiosity is relentless, inconvenient, and unapologetic. And while any parent will tell you it can feel like a conversational loop, beneath the repetition is something deeply important.
For my daughter, why wasn’t defiance for its own sake. It was her way of making sense of a world that often felt unpredictable. Each question was a step toward understanding - and ultimately, toward self-regulation and agency.
But as we become adults, many of us lose that impulse.
Somewhere between the playground and the boardroom, we trade curiosity for expertise. As we move into management and leadership, we begin to believe we already know how things work - and what makes people tick.
We stop asking.
We start telling.
And eventually, we stop learning.
That shift doesn’t make us decisive - it makes us dull.
To put it bluntly: leaders who lose their curiosity become ineffective. They close themselves off from new ideas, accelerate cognitive ageing, and quietly alienate the very people they’re meant to inspire. When you’re the person with all the answers, you don’t look strong - you become the bottleneck.
Curiosity in leadership isn't about stuck-in-the-mud questioning nor is it about fact-finding; it’s about refined curiosity.
As an ICF ACC accredited executive coach, I’ve found that the most powerful tool in a leader's kit isn't a solution - it's an awareness-evoking question.
Being a curious leader isn't just a "soft skill." It’s a biological and professional advantage. Here is how staying inquisitive changes the game:
Neuroscience shows that curiosity activates the brain’s reward system, releasing dopamine. This isn't just a "feel-good" moment; it creates a mental "vortex" that pulls in information, leading to sharper memory and better cognitive function.
Beyond the lab, curiosity at work is a massive predictor of life satisfaction and acts as a buffer against anxiety.
Curiosity has even been linked to longevity and a lower risk of dementia. Essentially, staying curious keeps your brain nimble and your spirit young.
In short, staying curious keeps your thinking sharp and your leadership future-ready.
Research published in Psychological Science shows that curious leaders are better at navigating social friction. Leaders who question their own assumptions are perceived as warmer, more approachable, and more trustworthy.
This is where the importance of curiosity in leadership becomes clear. When leaders inquire rather than instruct, people feel seen rather than managed. Curiosity creates the conditions for psychological safety and learning ensuring that trust follows.
According to a Harvard Business Review survey of 3,000 employees, 92% credited curiousity at work with bringing the most innovative ideas to the table. In fact, in complex, fast-changing environments, your Learning Quotient (LQ) - driven by curiosity - is often a better predictor of high performance than your IQ.
By weaving curiosity into your team culture, you don't just spark creativity; you actually lower employee burnout and stress. You shift the culture from one of "knowing it all" to "learning it all."
Curious leadership begins with how you relate to new information.
A beginner’s mind is the capacity to meet situations without immediately interpreting them as good or bad. It’s an orientation toward learning rather than self-protection. Children model this instinctively. New information doesn’t threaten their identity—it sparks interest.
In leadership, this mindset is the difference between being a reactor and an activator.
The Reactor:
Receives unexpected or unwelcome news and experiences it as a threat. The nervous system tightens, assumptions rush in, and the leader moves quickly to control or correct.
Result: Curiosity shuts down. So does the team.
The Activator:
Pauses and treats new information as data rather than danger. There’s a willingness—even a quiet excitement—to explore what this information might reveal.
“What does this tell us?”
“What might this open up that we haven’t considered yet?”
Result: Learning stays alive, and possibility expands.
This shift requires more than technique; it requires a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed one. Activators are not addicted to being right - they’re committed to understanding. They approach uncertainty with interest rather than urgency, and they signal to their teams that new information is not something to fear, but something to work with.
Just as children learn by staying open rather than certain, leaders who lead with a beginner’s mind transform disruption into insight. They don’t just manage change - they activate learning in the moment it matters most.
The easiest way for curious leaders to signal interest is to flip the ratio of their conversations. Most leaders feel the pressure to provide answers immediately, but this often shuts down team creativity.
Curiosity in leadership doesn’t require abandoning why. In fact, why is often the beginning of insight.
The issue is that, in workplaces, why is frequently delivered without care. When paired with urgency, hierarchy, or judgement, why can feel like blame, even when that’s not the intent.
Skilled leaders don’t eliminate why; they soften and scaffold it.
As an executive coach, I use curiosity not to extract facts, but to evoke awareness.
Fact-finding is about the past and the "problem"; evoking awareness is about the future and the "possibility." By asking open-ended questions, we encourage others to reflect on their own transformation and discover insights that lead to real growth.
By shifting your focus from the "facts" to the "insight," you unlock the collective thinking of your team rather than just auditing their performance.
We often listen just long enough to formulate our own rebuttal. To foster better leading with curiosity, you must create a vacuum of silence that invites the "hidden" truth to come forward.
Powerful information often gets surfaced when we are comfortable in silence and not knowing the answer.
Break out of your echo chamber. Cross-pollination is a key benefit of curiosity at work, but it requires stepping away from your "expert" persona and becoming a "student" of other departments.
We often think leadership is about having the answers. In reality, the best leaders are the best students.
Just as my daughter’s persistent why helped her build understanding and agency, leaders who stay curious - without judgement - help their teams make sense of complexity rather than brace against it.
As an executive coach, I don’t give answers—I create the conditions for insight. Curiosity invites leaders to slow down, tolerate uncertainty, and listen beneath the surface. It’s in that disciplined pause that transformation occurs. When leaders move from knower to explorer, leadership becomes lighter, more influential, and far more effective.
Curiosity doesn’t weaken authority - it deepens it. And when leaders reclaim that childlike wonder, leadership stops being about control and becomes a catalyst for trust, insight and breakthrough thinking.